Trying to resolve marital disputes through a properly trained and qualified mediator is an intelligent way to cool off emotions and get to the necessary common sense decision making that will lead to a successful Marital Settlement Agreement.  Our courts direct all cases go to mediation before being placed on a trial docket, no matter how far apart the parties may be.   Even if you and your spouse settle only a few of the issues, mediation can definitely save money spent on attorneys and always holds the promise of diluting bitterness and anger.  In addition, it allows the parties to reach an agreement between themselves in a private, confidential manner rather than having a judge decide very personal issues for you.